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A Curious Mention in the Marriage Records – a Non-Marriage in 1859

While browsing the marriage returns for Calais, Maine, I came across one unusual entry in 1860:

Intentions to marry were entered in the Calais City Clerk’s office on 11 June 1860 for Samuel H. Grover of St. George, Maine and Hannah F. Woodcock of Calais.

I recognized the Grover surname. My great grand aunt Pearl, who I knew, married Perce Chadwick. Perce’s mother, and Aunt Pearl’s mother-in-law, was Margaret Grover, part of the Grover family of St. George, Knox, Maine.

However, Samuel and Hannah never married and the City Clerk entered the following comment: “Miss Woodcock changed her mind and married another man.”

That piqued my interest and I wondered what became of Samuel and Hannah. Well, first off, Samuel must not have been took broken up about his bride-to-be changing her mind because, on the very next page, there is an entry for 7 August 1880:

Samuel H. Grover of St. George filed intentions to marry Margaret Farthing of St. Stephen, New Brunswick, Canada, just across the bridge from Calais.

I browsed several more pages looking for Hannah:

I guess Hannah wasn’t terribly broken up about parting ways with Samuel either, as two months after Samuel married, Hannah Woodcock filed intentions to marry Martin D(insmore) Hayman on 7 August 1860.

Still curious, I dug a bit deeper.

Samuel Grover and wife Margaret settled in New Brunswick, Canada.

In 1871, Samuel, 35, wife Margaret, 31, and daughters Lydia M., 12, and Sarah, 5, were living in St. Stephen. Margaret was born in New Brunswick, but Samuel and his daughters were born in the U.S.

The 1881 census shows the family still in St. Stephen, living next door to John Farthing, of an age to be Margaret’s brother. At home with Samuel and Margaret are daughters Effie S., 14 (probably Sarah was 1871). Lucy G., 12, born N.B., and Laura E., 8, born New Brunswick.

Not shown in the census records are several children Samuel and Margaret buried.

Samuel H. Grover was born c1835, St. George, Knox, Maine and married Margaret Farthing, born c1840, New Brunswick, Canada soon after their intentions were filed with the Calais City Clerk on 7 August 1860.

Samuel is last found in the 1901 census of St. Stephen and he apparently died before 1911. Margaret signed as a witness at Lucy’s wedding in 1912, so passed away sometime after that.

Samuel and Margaret were the parents of six children:

1. S. Etta, born 17 July 1861; died 1 March 1869, aged 7 years, 8 months, 16 days
2. Andrew Stilman, born 1864; died 25 February 1869, aged 4 years, 7 months, 4 days
3. Effie Sarah, born 4 June 1866; died 2 July 1928, Milltown, Charlotte, New Brunswick, Canada; married Edgar “Adkins” Scott, 1 November 1883, Calais, Washington, Maine
4. Lucy G., born c1869; married Guerdon E. Maxwell, 30 October 1912. Lucy was called spinster, 43, and it appears she and Guerdon had no children. Her parents are named as Samuel and Margaret Grover.
5. Laura Etta, born 19 June 1872; died 12 April 1942; married Clement McKay, 11 October 1899, St. Stephen, New Brunsiwick, Canada
5. Harry A., born 6 February 1876; died 16 April 1881, aged 5 years, 2 months, 10 days

Effie and Laura both had children, so Samuel Grover and Margaret Farthing have descendants today.

What of Hannah Woodcock? I wondered if perhaps geography had anything to do with her hesitance in marrying Samuel, plus the fact that he was a mariner.

However, if so, Hannah’s life turned out quite differently than Samuel’s.

Martin Dinsmore Hayman and Hannah Woodcock married about October 1860 in Calais.

Martin was born 26 May 1838, Robbinston, Washington, Maine and died on 24 June 1906, far from home, in Sherman County, Oregon. In 1900, he was enumerated in Dayton, Columbia, Washington as a single man and was working as a hotel clerk.

Moving back in time, it appears that Martin and his new bride, Hannah Affa Woodcock, lived in Maine for about 10 years. However,  they were enumerated in 1870 in Portland, Multnomah, Oregon in 1870 with three children – Holmes, 6, Lizzie, 4, and Lily May 9/12 months, all born in Maine. By 1880, the family had removed to Meadows, Umatilla County, Oregon and son Harry, 8, had joined the family, having been the first of the family to be born in Oregon.

What happened to Hannah between 1880 and 1900, when Martin was called ‘single’ in the census? Well, on 1 March 1885, Mrs. Hannah Hayman married William K. Kirk in Umatilla County.

Nothing further has been found on William Kirk or Hannah Affa (Woodcock) (Hayman) Kirk, but Hannah reportedly died 15 August 1886, with no sources given.

Martin and Hannah Affa were the parents of four children:

1. Holmes VanBuren, born 1 March 1864; died 16 October 1941, Newburg, Yamhill, Oregon; married Mary Omsby, c1891. They were the parents of five children.
2. Elizabeth Isabel, born c1866; died 20 December 1837, Heppner, Morrow, Oregon; married Franklin Dee Cox, (an early Oregonian), c1882. Lizzie gave birth to 15 children, 10 of whom were alive in 1910.
3. Lillie Mae, born c1869; died 6 May 1930, San Francisco, California; married Josiah Thomas Boothby, 20 November 1898, Morrow, Oregon. Josiah had children by a first wife, but he and Lillie were also parents to their own three sons.
4. Harry Rideout, 14 August 1871; died 27 August 1953, both in Portland, Multnomah, Oregon; married Laura May Kellogg, c1900. They were the parents of four daughters and two sons.

The reasons for Hannah’s decision to not marry Samuel Grover will probably never be known, unless a descendant has heard and shares the story.

However, each went on to marry others and led very different lives. Both have a number of descendants today and I have to wonder if any of them know about the “almost” marriage of their ancestors.




Dating and Identifying Two Very Old Photos

I’ve written about my cousin, Charles Adams Chadwick, in a previous post. He passed on to me a number of old family photographs dating back to the 1850’s. Here are two of them:

Annie and Walter Grover, as inscribed on backs

The reverse side doesn’t have the photographer’s name, but there is a decorative imprint, which is the same on both photos.


19th Century Card Photos Kwik Guide by Gary W. Clark is a great resource for dating old photos. These photos are cartes de visite (commonly known as CDV photos), introduced in the United States about 1860 and very popular from the Civil War era to around 1880.

There is a third photograph that was placed in his mother’s album that is not inscribed. It is of a lady holding a child who is maybe about three years old. This photo does have the photographer’s name on the back – Fred A. Stoddard, Calais, Maine. There is also a one cent tax stamp on the back.

Grover1             Back of Photo

Annie’s and Walter’s photos are measure 2 3/8 inches by 4 inches, likely matching the dimensions of this third photo which had been trimmed slightly on the right front side. The height of the third photo is also 4 inches.

Gary Clark suggests eight clues to research in order to determine the age and date of CDV photos, which I followed:

1. Determine card thickness and size.

There are examples of card thicknesses in the book. All three of these photos match cards of the thinnest example, which were in use from 1858-1863. All cards appear to measure 2 3/8 inches by 4 inches, which were used from 1862-1869.

2. Examine the card borders and art work.

Annie’s and Walter’s photos have a two-line border with the lines of the same width. Those borders were in use from 1863-1864. The woman and child photo also has a two-line border, but the outer line is thicker than the inner line. That border was in use from 1864-1869.

3. Examine card edges, corners and color.

The card corners are all a bit worn, but appear to be square, used between 1861-1869. The card edges are all straight and plain, used 1861-1890. Paper color is natural, used between 1858-1890.

4. Inspect the photographer’s imprint.

Annie’s and Walter’s photos don’t include the photographer’s name, but have simple artwork, dating them from 1863-1869. The mother and child photo was taken by Fred A. Stoddard, Calais, Maine.

A check of the 1860 and 1870 censuses of Calais, Maine found Frederick A. Stoddard, ambrotypist, born about 1822 in Maine in 1860; in 1870, F.A. Stoddard, photographist was still living there.

5. Analyze the image size in the print. (Head and bust, seated and standing)

Standing and seated poses have been popular for a long time, so that doesn’t help any with these three photos.

6. Look for tax stamps.

The mother and child photo has the one cent tax stamp, used from March 1865 through August 1866.

7. Inspect clothes and styles for dating.

Annie’s dress was a popular style for young girls in the early 1860’s. Walter is also dressed in clothing typical of that time period. The lady holding the young child has a distinctive hair style, parted in the middle with long defined curls. That style exactly matches an 1866 example in Clark’s book. Her dress is partly hidden, but looks like mid 1860’s ladies’ styles.

8. Examine studio backgrounds and props.

Early prompts most often were just a dark background and perhaps a chair, a balustrade or a curtain. Annie’s photo has a chair, Walter’s has just the dark background and the woman with child is seated with a dark background and curtain. All three photos are reminiscent of the 1860’s time period.


Annie’s and Walter’s photos date from about 1863-1864, while the woman and child photo is clearly from March 1865-August 1866, based on the tax stamp. The photos were originally placed in the same section of Pearl Adams Chadwick’s photo album. Annie and Walter may be siblings, based on the very round shapes of their faces and the settings of their eyes. The child in the woman and child photo has the same round face as Annie and Walter and similarly set eyes. It is hard to tell from the woman’s face, but her eyes seem to be similar to those of the children. This may be a mother and her children.

With all these clues, who are these people? I don’t know!!!

Charles Chadwick’s maternal grandmother, Margaret Jane Grover, was born about 1846 in St. George, then Lincoln now Knox County, Maine. She had two siblings in the 1850 census – George H. born about 1839 and Charles, born about 1843. The family moved to Calais between 1850 and 1860 and were the only Grover family living there in the 1860 census. Margaret’s brothers are both too young to be the father of Annie or Walter. Margaret’s parents, John Grover and Eunice Barter, were born about 1812 and 1818, respectively. Young ladies in New England generally didn’t marry much before the age of 20. Even if Eunice had married when she was 16 and started having children by the age of 17, her oldest child would have been about 25 in 1860 and not old enough to be Annie’s father.

Another problem is that no Annie and Walter Grover can be found in Maine in 1860 or 1870.

A census check for Grovers in St. George in 1810 and 1820 shows one family, that of John Grover, who could be the father of John who married Eunice Barter. he had several brothers. A tentative hypothesis is that these children are cousins of Margaret Jane Grover.